As I was talking with my therapist the other day, we were discussing how I, as an individual, and we, Tony & I, are in a really good place. I agreed and mentioned that we were a little anxious in moments that the “other shoe was going to drop.” She stated that we can never know what the future will bring. The only thing we can do is be resilient.
Now, having been through a tornado destroying our home and business, I understand the need to be resilient. But I hadn’t really thought of it in this tense. So, that night I was pondering (an old fashioned southern word for deep thought) this as I was going to sleep it hit me. The only way to live, like really LIVE to embrace. it. all.
To do this is to accept that:
The shoe will drop.
The rug will be pulled out from under you.
Life will happen and some of it WILL hurt.
But what you WILL NOT accept is the fear of the future or fear’s ugly cousin, dread of what might happen to steal your JOY from this happy moment.
I will not let dread or fear of what is coming or not coming steal my joy in the really good place. I will let my joy run FREE. I will soak up every nuance of this season. I will be grateful for every walk on the beach, every stroll down our historic neighborhood, every kiss from my grand-babies, every smile from my husband. I will gobble it all up like a sumo wrestler at an all you can eat buffet.
Then, when the bumps come- even if the bump in the road is filled with heartache- I will have no regrets. These moments I am enjoying right now will be what sustain me when the road is hard.
I will be so busy being grateful that there is no room for fear.
I will be so busy being happy that dread cannot steal a bit of joy.
One thought on “How To Keep Fear Out of Your Joy”
My first time reading a post from Herb and Sea Home and while the topic caught my attention so did the word “show” in your second sentence. I’m sure you meant “shoe” now that I’ve read through the article but it threw off my ability to absorb any of the information from that point on. I do agree it is important to be resilient and to look for the joy in life. Thanks for the reminder.